Slowness
Embracing Presence in a Fast-Paced World
As far as I can remember, I’ve always been told I’m slow. At school, I couldn’t finish tests as quickly as others—sometimes I didn’t finish at all. This problem kept following me as a young adult in my professional life, I was often slower than my colleagues. My work was good, sometimes even better than others’, but it always took me more time to finish.
For a long time, that made me feel ashamed. I felt inferior and wished I could do things as quickly as others. But now, in my late thirties, my perspective has completely changed. Over the years, I’ve become deeply interested in meditation, mindfulness, breathing exercises, and, of course, tantra—and in all of these practices, my natural slowness has turned out to be an advantage.
I’ve come to understand that the feeling of inadequacy I once had came from living in a capitalist society that puts the pursuit of profit front and center. Profit is maximized through productivity, and productivity is achieved through speed. That’s how our minds become colonized by the idea that we must always be fast and efficient.
In a capitalist world, being slow may be seen as a disadvantage. But for life itself—for well-being, presence, and happiness—it’s a gift.
The Virtues of Slowness
Slowness has many hidden virtues. It helps us fight stress and anxiety, invites mindfulness, and deepens our sense of pleasure and connection.
We strive to be faster and faster, but we should also learn to be slower. Slowness paves the way to extraordinary abilities.
It reduces stress and anxiety
When you slow down, your nervous system relaxes. You stop running after the next task or thought and begin to inhabit the present moment. The breath slows down, the body unwinds, and peace can emerge.
It sounds simple, and it may not be enough by itself, but it works.
It enhances mindfulness and perception
When you slow down, more things come to your attention. And the more you slow down, the more you perceive.
It’s like looking out the window of a moving car. At high speed, everything blurs past. But driving slowly, you can truly observe every detail of the landscape.
In a way, slowing down makes the world around you come into high definition.
It deepens pleasure and connection
Things that are slow are more intense.
Try this: have your partner run a finger across the palm of your hand. Now have them do it again, three times slower. Notice the difference?
Slowness does wonders for intimacy, both with others and with yourself. Moving slowly amplifies sensations and lets you feel energy flowing through your body in ways that rushing never could. It’s also one of the key ingredients to unlock energy orgasms.
Cultivating Slowness
In an age where fast social media eats our attention span, cultivating slowness has become urgent. This can be done through meditation, yoga, tai chi, qi gong, or any practice that reconnects you with your body and breath—including orgasmic meditation.
When I want to meditate, do energy work or simply center myself, slowing down is the first thing I do. I slow down my mind, my breath, my entire body, even my perception of time—I stretch each second into longer, fuller moments. This opens a hidden layer of reality, one that is always present but invisible at higher pace.
The world becomes richer when you move through it slowly.
Slow Down, Be Present
Modern society constantly pushes us to go faster and faster—to do more, achieve more, consume more. But life isn’t a race.
There are treasures to be found in slowness: peace, awareness, pleasure.
Slowing down isn’t a weakness to fix—it’s a doorway to presence, if we dare walk through it.
If you have any questions, I’d be happy to answer them. You can reach me in DM or at neontantra.com/contact.
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