The Problem With Kegels
Kegels can be counter-productive and harmful
In my previous article about premature ejaculation, I mentioned that kegels are often used incorrectly, which can be counter-productive. Let’s break down a public testimony that illustrates this fact perfectly.
First of all, a kegel is an exercise of the pelvic floor that involves performing series of contractions of the pelvic floor muscles in order to strengthen them. It is meant for both men and women and brings many health benefits.
You might wonder why this person wanted to practice kegels. One of the main benefits of pelvic floor control is the ability for men to last longer in bed.
Instead of gaining better control, he only reduced his ejaculatory control. Far from being surprising, it’s actually pretty common.
If kegels are not done properly—as it frequently happens—they result in overtightening the pelvic floor, which is the main cause of premature ejaculation.
There are three common issues:
One of the common mistakes men make when practicing kegels is focusing too much on the contracting part of the exercise, and not enough on the relaxing part.
It’s very important to fully relax the pelvic floor muscles before moving to the next contraction. Whenever practicing kegels you have to spend just as much time relaxing your pelvic floor as contracting it.Kegels are not enough. Ideally you should learn to control these muscles in more complex ways than just contracting them.
This includes learning to actively lengthen and relax them, which is where techniques like reverse kegels come in.
This is why in addition to kegels I also teach reverse kegels, and other exercises that target specific muscles one at a time.There is such a thing as too many kegels. Depending on the program you follow, you can gain sufficient pelvic floor strength in a few weeks or a few months.
Once your pelvic floor has enough strength, you should only do kegels from time to time, to maintain the muscles. Unfortunately many men keep doing kegels for way too long and overtrain their pelvic floor.
Thankfully this person figured out what was wrong and managed to correct it.
He hit the nail on the head by saying it’s not just about strength, but also about control.
Keeping the pelvic floor relaxed is the biggest key to ejaculation control. There are many techniques required for ejaculation control, but relaxation is the most important of all.
In my program I teach a wide range of techniques, but in theory you can gain total control of your ejaculatory reflex only by training relaxation in the pelvic floor and the whole body.
Although note that relaxation alone isn't always enough for everyone. The other techniques are what reinforce your chances of success and help you get there much faster.
So remember:
Kegels are just as much an exercise of relaxation as contraction.
Overdoing kegels is counterproductive and may lead to issues.
Don’t limit your training to just kegels.
And as always, if you have any concerns, it’s a good idea to consult your GP before starting any new exercise routine.
For anyone interested, I teach the science of ejaculation control to men in one-on-one video calls. The teaching includes a complete set of solutions to fix PE: pelvic floor muscle training, body exercises, breath exercises, stretching of muscles involved in PE, and other behavioral techniques.
This program enables you to rewire the body to gain full control over the ejaculatory reflex, in a way that is safer and more effective than the random information found online.
And the best part is that the same techniques that are used to eliminate PE can also be used to learn non-ejaculatory multiple orgasms (NEMO). This means that not only can you learn to last longer—or even as long as you want—you can also learn to orgasm many times in a single session without losing arousal.
Interested? Visit neontantra.com to book a free call or message me.